According to God’s perspective, we should not hold a grudge because unforgiveness can take root in our hearts and keep us focused on the wrong someone has done rather than on the grace God has shown us. Scripture teaches us to forgive others as God has forgiven us (Ephesians 4:32). This does not mean ignoring wrongdoing or pretending that hurt never happened. It means choosing to release the desire for revenge and trusting God to handle justice in His way and His timing. When we forgive, we are not saying what happened was right—we are choosing not to let someone else’s actions control our hearts and rob us of the peace God wants us to have.
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Called to Be Peacemakers
Refusing to be a peacemaker when God calls us to pursue peace means turning away from a clear biblical call to love others, forgive, and seek reconciliation. Peace is not optional in the Christian life. It is part of what it means to follow Christ.
What the Bible Says
God blesses those who make peace. Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God” (Matthew 5:9). Peacemaking reflects the heart and character of God.
Anger does not produce God's righteousness. James 1:20 reminds us that “human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” Anger may be understandable, but holding onto it can keep us from responding with the love and grace God calls us to show.
Peace requires intentional effort. Romans 12:18 tells us, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” We cannot control another person's response, but we are responsible for our own willingness to pursue peace.
The Spiritual Cost of Refusing Peace
When we continually hold onto anger, resentment, or unforgiveness, the damage goes beyond the relationship itself. It can affect our spiritual growth, our fellowship with others, and our relationship with God.
Broken fellowship: Unresolved conflict can create distance between friends, family members, and fellow believers. What begins as hurt can eventually become bitterness and division.
Hindered spiritual growth: When we refuse to forgive or make an honest effort toward reconciliation, we can become trapped by the very hurt we are holding onto. God calls us to freedom, not bondage to resentment.
A weakened witness: As followers of Christ, we are called to reflect His love. Pursuing peace does not mean pretending that nothing happened or ignoring wrongdoing. It means choosing truth, grace, forgiveness, and reconciliation whenever possible.
Being a peacemaker does not mean being a people-pleaser, avoiding difficult conversations, or accepting unhealthy behavior. Sometimes peace requires courage—to speak the truth, acknowledge our own part, extend forgiveness, and take the first step toward reconciliation.
We cannot force someone else to make peace. But we can ask ourselves: Have I done my part? Have I forgiven? Have I reached out? Have I allowed anger to become more important than reconciliation?
God calls us to be peacemakers because peacemaking reflects His heart. When we choose peace, we choose love. When we pursue reconciliation, we demonstrate the transforming power of Christ.
As far as it depends on us, let us pursue peace—not because the other person always deserves it, but because Christ has called us to it.
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